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May 30, 2017

Flowers are Beautiful, But Do We Really Need the Rain?

April showers bring May flowers. So many times in my childhood I remember this verse being said by my mother. While most times it was to describe the spring downpours of rain that seemed to keep me hostage to inside play, there were other times she would say it; times of small and great disappointments. It took me quite a few years to understand what she meant by reciting this very common, simple children’s rhyme when there was not a rain cloud in the sky.

When It Rains It Pours

As we grow up, we so many times face disappointments or for lack of better terms, rain showers, even thunderstorms, in life.April Showers_waterspray

  • That toy we had to have under the Christmas tree, that never made it there.
  • The friend you thought would never hurt you, who did. 
  • The perfect job you did not get.
  • The family financial upturn that quickly went away in the face of an unplanned household expense.
  • The sick family member that you prayed for, whose outcome was not what was expected.
  • The person you knew to be the love of your life, whom it turned out to be…was not.

These disappointments in the midst of life’s rain showers can make us feel insecure, unconfident, unhappy or even unloved. But, as the verse goes, most times these are just temporary “rain showers”; times of growth, waiting and learning that lead to the true beauty of life, unexpected blessings.

I myself, have experienced what has often felt like are the torrential rains, or for my part of the country, tornadoes, of life. Caught up in the whirlwinds of what I perceived as the lost loves of my life, career failures or just the world’s unfairness; to me they all felt like huge disappointments to overcome and at times…like the end of life as I knew it. But for most of those temporary showers, as I look back now, they weren’t the “best things in life” that I saw them to be, the real blessings came later on, once the growth had occurred.

To Be A Writer

April Showers_playing in rainThe best example I can give of my own April showers, is in my career. So many times in the past I thought I had “THE GREAT job”, the one to build my work life’s success on, only to find out later that the job was not what I truly wanted. While the pay may not have been bad, the work was uninspiring. These jobs while great for learning my skills seemed to drain me, breaking my spirit. I wanted to write.

As the showers came and went I began to wonder if I would ever be given the “dream job” as a writer. But with each of my career’s April Showers, I grew bolder, confident and more determined. I needed those disappointments to truly show not others, but myself, how much I wanted to be a writer. To make me hungry enough to pursue it with passion, drive and energy. To show ME how important it really was to me to become a writer. I could not just be given the job, I had to earn it and sometimes even…chase it.

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something…” Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

So next time you are enduring the rainy moments of your life, the times when hope just seems to have disappeared, remember, April Showers bring May Flowers.

cta

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